I am not Asocial, I am just Selectively Social

I am not Asocial, I am just very selective in socializing with people.

Life is short and I don't want to waste any part of it by pretending to be someone who i am not. According to me, what others think of you matters less compared to what you think of yourself, and it takes a lot of time and efforts to build that level of confidence and ability to believe in yourself when nobody else does. I have invested so much of my time and efforts to build it.

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I'd be less introverted if the conversations in my head weren't better than the conversations I have with other people.

Do u ever just make up scenarios in ur head that u know will never happen, but it makes u so happy so u just keep on imagining them?

— Aditya Patel (@TheAmblingSoul) June 1, 2015

There are days when I talk a lot with people and there are days when I prefer solitude. Sometimes (or most of the times) I don't even reply to those 'Good Morning' and 'Good Night' messages. It doesn't mean I don't like talking with people. It simply means that I have some more important work to do than replying to those texts. Sometimes, I may even plug in earphones, without any music being played, so that I don't have to oblige to reply other people in some trivial things. However, I won't mind to indulge in the conversation the very moment it takes a turn towards something interesting and informative.

"To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people just exist, that is all! Instead of living, they just scroll through life!"

What exactly socializing is? Does it mean wasting your time in doing something just because many others are doing it and if you will not do it, they will call you an eccentric person. If so, I don't find socializing any useful to me and it won't contribute to my personal development.

The Pursuit of Happyness

"Can I say something? Um, I'm the type of person that if you ask me a question and I don't know the answer, I'm gonna tell you that I don't know. But I bet you what, I know how to find the answer and I will find the answer. Is that fair enough?"    ~The Pursuit of Happyness

Socializing, for me, is to learn from the surrounding environment and use it to ultimately improve yourself. Let me take an example to explain. An infant doesn't know much about society and he has no opinions about what is right and what is wrong. Neither he knows how to speak, behave or walk. He learns all those things from surroundings. When he grows up gradually, all those activities becomes as common as breathing and he doesn't need to apply any conscious efforts to perform those actions. Tarzan -A fictional character, though being a human child, when grew up in the jungle became like those with whom he grew up. it was because he learned from them only and had little contact with the human beings.

To those people who don’t know me; I am and will remain that ‘eccentric, grumpy, rude and asocial person’ which in reality I am not.

Do not fear to be eccentric in opinion, for every opinion now accepted was once eccentric.

— Aditya Patel (@adityapateloo7) June 12, 2015

The original article was published by me on my old blog in June 2015. Click here to visit my old blog!